I was reading commentary on how parents especially deal with a new diagnosis of Autism in a child and what their advise would be. I found one striking comment saying to throw expectations out the window. I was struck by this fact, because although obviously a negative implication is there, why do parents, or anyone, expect anything in childhood? Every person is different. I did respond to this, and I will include what I said in this post today, with some added content and minor changes to flow with this journal.
I have Autism as you all who have read this know by now, and I earned a Bachelors Degree in Computer Information Systems from DeVry University. Was this expected or demanded of me? Not at all. I wasn’t even expected to graduate High School. I did however want to prove a point and send a message, one was to my doubters and detractors, that they were wrong. I had to prove I was better then any of them said I was.
The second, and more powerful message, was to my supporters and friends. My way of thanking them for standing beside me, even when times got tough, and helping me achieve a dream. To be an Autistic with a degree.
Do I think expectations should be “thrown out”. Absolutely, they are hopes and dreams a parent has for a child if anything else. This is a good thing, however, it’s the child’s progress that needs to b the driving force, not what they are told to do, or pushed toward, but what they want to accomplish.
I believe with all of my heart that Autistics can achieve anything their heart desires.
They have goals to accomplish, no matter if it is as simple as dressing themselves, drinking through a straw the first time, eating something they may not like, but learn to like in the future.
I did all of these things, and eventually grew to bigger dreams and goals, that all were fulfilled, a marriage, a child of my own, a degree, getting a driver’s license, small and simple things are the building blocks that grow to help the big, great things, come to pass.
An autistic can do anything they set their heart and mind to, no different then a Neurotypical.